Manifesting a specific person is no different to manifesting any other goal or desire. All it comes down to is convincing yourself that you already have them. Even if you don’t yet see it in the 3D reality, you still develop the confidence, inner knowing and conviction that your desire is going to show up in your 3D sooner or later and keep living life feeling content.
Here is a quick guide on how to get to that state of conviction and how to make it your dominant state:
1) Have a solid foundation about how the Law works. Above all, remember that consciousness is primordial. This will help tremendously to strengthen your faith. There is nothing above consciousness and what you decide in consciousness is up to you and you alone.
2) Believe in yourself. You can do it and you already have all the answers within you. This goes hand in hand with point #1. Knowing how the Law works, gives you the confidence to know that you and you alone can bring about that change in your life regardless of circumstances, the current 3D reality or anything else showing up as a ‘barrier’.
3) Know that your desire is already yours. If it was given to you by your higher self, then it it’s meant for you, and the means to realize it have already been devised. They may not yet be obvious in the 3D, but they do exist and they will manifest in the most natural possible ways – the path of least resistance.
4) Focus your imagination on all the things you want to experience with your specific person. Treat any old stories as old news, or revise them. You’re in a new reality now and the past doesn’t apply anymore. Be consistent with your new story.
5) Live your life. Pursue all your other goals. Have fun and make your days as happy as possible, filled with things and experiences you enjoy. This will help you incorporate the previous points so much easier too. The more content you are with your life in general, the easier it is for you to imagine favorably about yourself and embody the conviction, confidence and expectation that more good things are coming your way!
There is a lot of talk in the manifesting community about how only we (the manifestor) should be on the pedestal and how everything and everyone else – including and especially our specific person – should be off the pedestal. While there is some truth to that, my opinion and experience on this is slightly different. Let me explain.
When manifesting any desire into our 3D reality, putting the desire on a pedestal will more often than not delay the manifestation due to the resistance it creates. This is because the message we automatically give our subconscious is that this desire is hard to manifest, that it should be more difficult than normal, and that we do not have our desire right now. As we know, our subconscious will accept whatever suggestion we give it and bring it into our reality, slowing things down, and manifesting doubts and obstacles instead of our actual desire. This goes for any and all manifestations and of course this includes specific person manifestations.
All that being said, there is a fine line between keeping someone off the pedestal and putting ourselves so high up the pedestal that we end up belittling and underestimating everything and everyone else by stating or thinking things like, “they don’t deserve me”, “I am so much better than them”, “they should be begging to have me” etc. While a healthy self concept and strong confidence in self are essential tools to fast and effortless manifesting, we don’t want to be crossing over to pride, arrogance, or conceit. And I’m not saying this for any moral reason, but rather from a manifesting point of view and again from the point of view of the story we tell our subconscious in relation to our desire. Assuming our desire is to manifest a beautiful, loving relationship with our specific person, saying that we deserve better, that we are better than them, or that they should be begging for our attention gives our subconscious the message that we are actually not being treated the way we want to be treated by our specific person and that the relationship is actually not what we want and deserve, hence missing the mark of living in the state of the wish fulfilled. Looking at both states more closely – the one where your specific person is on a pedestal and feels out of reach, and the one where you feel so high up the pedestal that you start feeling your specific person doesn’t deserve you – are the opposite sides of the same coin called “the ego”. Both states are ego-driven and lack-driven – in the first case you find yourself lacking in relation to your specific person, while in the second case you find your specific person lacking in relation to you. The ego loves to create friction by comparison. I completely understand how it can feel empowering to lift yourself up and no longer feel desperate and helpless when it comes to having your person – and by all means, do that, empower, trust and believe in yourself – but I would urge caution in getting too far off the opposite side for the reasons already explained.
What, then, is the answer? Where is the balance to be found? The answer is: love. Love yourself and love your specific person if what you want is to get love back. If you are manifesting love with them after all, it makes perfect sense to project love out so that you get love reflected back to you, doesn’t it? You love yourself through unconditional self acceptance and through absolute trust in yourself to have all the answers, to know what to do and how to manifest every desire given to you, and to believe yourself to be powerful, beautiful, magnetic, loved, wanted, desired, and appreciated at all times by everyone in your life. When it comes to your specific person, you love them by accepting them and trusting them to be able, capable and willing to be the best version of themselves to you and for you. You know that you deserve it and you accept that they deserve and desire this loving relationship too that will bring out the best in them.
The added effect manifesting through love and trust has is that you actually lose all this unhealthy attachment to your desire that you may have. You create a healthy detachment by getting into the state of knowing that all is well, that you are loved and wanted, that you already have what you want and that it is possible for you. You lose all this ego resistance, the feeling becomes more natural until one day it becomes inner knowledge, and this is when things in the outside world begin to move in your favor. You no longer stress, worry, or doubt yourself excessively, you don’t get too caught up in circumstances, and you go about living and enjoying your life without obsessing over this one desire. A win-win on all fronts.
So every time you are temped by the ego to create unfavorable stories about your specific person (or anyone else for that matter) that involve you being on a high pedestal and everyone else undeserving of your love and attention, don’t take the bait. Remember what you are truly manifesting into your life – love, fulfillment, acceptance, respect – and choose love instead in order to see it mirrored back to you. Love for yourself and love for any specific person whose love you want to bring into your life.
In a previous post, I went into detail about why all our desires – be it generic or specific, including the desire for a specific person in our life – are meant for us to have and experience. This post is an add-on to drive the point home that, if your desire is for a specific person, then you absolutely can manifest them, and what’s more than that, you actually should do it.
As we mentioned previously, there is nothing that is off limits to our God nature which we all partake in. All things are possible to God and desires are given to us because they are meant to materialize in the 3D world as one of the infinite expressions of God in this world. We, in our human form, are the vessel through which such expressions come into physical form. God is One Consciousness but with infinite, limitless expressions. Therefore, the desire for a specific person is no different than any other desire, and because all desires are given with the means to their realization already devised – no matter whether our limited human mind can see that clearly or not – it is absolutely possible and doable to manifest a specific person regardless of any 3D circumstances making it seemingly hard or even impossible. Remember that circumstances are only a problem if we perceive them as such. If we remain indifferent to them, or keep a strong conviction that everything happens in our favor, or even that our desire is ours despite any seeming obstacles – all different forms of revision – then they will “magically” either fade away, or change, or will stop mattering even if they remain.
“If you can believe, all things are possible to him who believes.”
Mark 9:23
There’s even more to it than that. Not only CAN you manifest a specific person, but you also SHOULD (if that’s what you want). As we already said, desires are given to us for a reason. The reason is for us to have them, enjoy them, have a richer human experience while on this earth, but also fulfill our God self’s expression through that desire coming to pass in the material world. So not honoring your desire by holding back, denying it to yourself, doubting or second guessing it would be denying your God self the opportunity to that physical expression that was meant as a gift for you in the first place. All desires are a promise and a gift from your God self and are meant to be taken and accepted as such. If your desire is for a specific person, you would be doing yourself a disservice by not manifesting it and rejecting this gift that has been extended to you as a special possibility for you – and this goes for any and all desires. Accept your desire for a specific person with gratitude – as you would do with any gift – and give it your energy so that you can see it manifest in the physical realm.
Some people, especially those coming from traditional Law of Attraction teachings, worry that manifesting a specific person means depriving them of their free will, manipulating them, or exercising some sort of mind control over them. However this is a false premise and in direct contrast with the principle of “Everyone Is You Pushed Out” that we’re going to explore further in this post.
First things first though, let’s get one thing clear and out of the way. Conscious manifesting is not magic, witchcraft, mind control or any other obscure practice – in fact all such practices are actually intention setting accompanied by a ritual to help the practitioner strengthen their own faith in what they’re doing. All conscious manifesting is, is changing one’s self to align with the energy of our desired outcome.
The whole vast world is YOU pushed out.
Neville Goddard
What Neville means in the quote above is that the world is always a mirror of our consciousness within. This includes other people. No one is exempt from that law and means that every person we encounter in our life – in any role or capacity – is simply a reflection of our own thoughts, feelings, beliefs and assumptions about ourselves, them, our relationship with them, and also the world at large. Chances are that, if you are having trouble manifesting a specific person – whether it’s for a new relationship, getting back together, or improving an existing relationship – you have certain mental and/or emotional blocks in one or more of the above categories, which your specific person reflects back to you with their words and/or actions (or lack thereof). For example, you may feel like you are not worthy of love (self concept), that your specific person is not ready to commit to a relationship (belief about the other person), that you are very different people wanting different things (assumption about the relationship between you), or that romantic relationships in general are hard (belief about the world at large). Ultimately though, everything ties back to your self concept on some level or other.
Since everyone out there is a mirror of who you are within, it follows that shifting who you are within will also cause a shift in what the mirror reflects back to you. Just like a physical mirror that always reflects what you put in front of it – whether that’s you winking, smiling, frowning, lifting your arm, or scratching your chin, plus an infinite number of other possibilities – everyone else in your life will always reflect your inner energy into the outer world for you to experience. What do you do if you see something you don’t like in a physical mirror? You correct your hair, makeup, or facial expression into something that matches how you actually want to look like. Similarly, by the principles of conscious manifesting, if someone in your outer world reflects something you don’t prefer, what you are supposed to do is correct the overall energy you project (thoughts, inner conversations, feelings, beliefs) to match what you want to experience with the person instead, which, if consistent enough, they will then reflect back to you sooner or later.
Unlike what most dominantly believe, people don’t deliberately set out to hurt you, upset you, make you angry, jealous, or anxious. Rather, they are reflecting these energies that you – as the main player in your reality – first projected out through your inner conversations and feelings, matching those energies to a T, forever obeying your own internal script about yourself, them, your relationship with them, and the world around you.
For others only echo that which we whisper to them in secret.
Neville Goddard, “The Power of Awareness”
You see then why free will isn’t even relevant in this context and why it is not something that you need to worry about when manifesting a specific person. Let go right now of any and all guilt, fear, or doubt about manipulating others or controlling their thoughts. For no one – not even ourselves – has true free will in this 3D world, except in how we perceive and interpret what we experience in our life, as well as in setting intentions – all parts of choosing the state we dwell in. But we definitely all play the part given to us by the energies other people project upon us. And since we live in quantum bubbles where all we can ever experience is our own reality, other people – including our specific person – are compelled to act out that which we “whisper to them in secret”, which we can choose to change and adjust in any given moment.
There is a lot of discussion in manifesting communities on whether manifesting a specific person is the way to go when bringing love into your life. To this extent, you will often hear coaches advising people to intend for “this or something better” as a way to avoid fixating on one person, which can sometimes delay a manifestation. I will beg to differ for a number of reasons.
First and foremost, let’s consider the nature and source of our desires. To quote Neville, our desires are given to us by our higher self, our God self within.
“Stop asking yourself whether you are worthy or unworthy to receive that which you desire. You, as man, did not create the desire. Your desires are ever fashioned within you because of what you now claim yourself to be.”
Neville Goddard, “At Your Command”
Being infinite and infinitely wise and knowing, our God self would never come up with any desire that is incapable of materializing in the 3D world. Our desires are meant for us based on what we need at this point in time for our spiritual development and on where we currently are in our level of consciousness, but of course they are also meant to be ours for reasons of pure fun and enjoyment in this human experience we are all taking part in. To summarize the first point, the mere fact that you have a desire automatically means that you are meant to have it and that it is capable of manifesting.
Second point, the statement of “this or something better”, while well-intentioned, also hides a level of fear and doubt in it. Should I fail to manifest my original specific person, I can look forward to “something better” waiting for me down the road. While this sounds like a nice consolation prize in a way, I am very against us coaches telling people who they should or shouldn’t be manifesting or whether it’s right or wrong to manifest a specific person if this is what they choose. We are infinite beings and have the power to shape our lives any way we want. We have also been given our specific desire for a reason and if this sounds foreign to you, I encourage you to go back to the first point and read it again. Once again, our desires are meant for us and we have the right to want to take this journey at this point in time with a specific person rather than someone generic – if this is our desire. There is nothing wrong with changing our mind and deciding later that we’d rather shift our attention to another specific person or to manifesting love in general and being open to a new person that comes along, as either one of these would be a new, separate desire in its own merit. But if our desire pertains to a specific person, then in my opinion we should honor our God self and our desire and confidently focus on that, knowing that the means for our success have already been devised.
Third point, the desire to manifest a specific person into your life does not in fact differ from any other specific desire — whether it be manifesting a house in a specific area, a specific job in a specific company, a specific amount of money, a cure from a specific health problem, a specific gift, specific car make and model, and so on. There is nothing that says that a specific person is off limits, more difficult, more challenging or less ethically correct than any of the above. Again we go back to “our desires are given to us from our God self within and as such, are meant for us to have them and are meant to materialize.”
Last but not least, the “something better” in itself is a moot point. As conscious manifestors, we know that we can choose to shape our reality in any way we choose based on the concept we hold of ourselves and others. This means that the way we perceive another is going to be directly reflected back to us in how they appear in our reality. We also know that every person holds infinite versions of themselves and that there is, right now, a version of that person that is exactly the version we desire to experience that can be brought forth as long as we focus our energy on it. Therefore there is nothing to say that the “something better” cannot be experienced through that specific person that our eyes were set on in the first place. Their “better” version is right there for us to tap into, channel, and sooner or later get to experience and enjoy in our 3D reality.
So if your heart is set on a specific person that is special to you for your own reasons, please don’t listen to any naysayers that may try to convince you not to go for it. It’s a desire like any other desire and it’s as valid as any other specific or general desire. It is also yours, meant and fashioned for you, and designed by your infinite God self just for you to experience and enjoy. Therefore you should absolutely go for it without any guilt, fear, or hesitation.
