Manifesting a specific person is no different to manifesting any other goal or desire. All it comes down to is convincing yourself that you already have them. Even if you don’t yet see it in the 3D reality, you still develop the confidence, inner knowing and conviction that your desire is going to show up in your 3D sooner or later and keep living life feeling content.
Here is a quick guide on how to get to that state of conviction and how to make it your dominant state:
1) Have a solid foundation about how the Law works. Above all, remember that consciousness is primordial. This will help tremendously to strengthen your faith. There is nothing above consciousness and what you decide in consciousness is up to you and you alone.
2) Believe in yourself. You can do it and you already have all the answers within you. This goes hand in hand with point #1. Knowing how the Law works, gives you the confidence to know that you and you alone can bring about that change in your life regardless of circumstances, the current 3D reality or anything else showing up as a ‘barrier’.
3) Know that your desire is already yours. If it was given to you by your higher self, then it it’s meant for you, and the means to realize it have already been devised. They may not yet be obvious in the 3D, but they do exist and they will manifest in the most natural possible ways – the path of least resistance.
4) Focus your imagination on all the things you want to experience with your specific person. Treat any old stories as old news, or revise them. You’re in a new reality now and the past doesn’t apply anymore. Be consistent with your new story.
5) Live your life. Pursue all your other goals. Have fun and make your days as happy as possible, filled with things and experiences you enjoy. This will help you incorporate the previous points so much easier too. The more content you are with your life in general, the easier it is for you to imagine favorably about yourself and embody the conviction, confidence and expectation that more good things are coming your way!
There is a lot of talk in the manifesting community about how only we (the manifestor) should be on the pedestal and how everything and everyone else – including and especially our specific person – should be off the pedestal. While there is some truth to that, my opinion and experience on this is slightly different. Let me explain.
When manifesting any desire into our 3D reality, putting the desire on a pedestal will more often than not delay the manifestation due to the resistance it creates. This is because the message we automatically give our subconscious is that this desire is hard to manifest, that it should be more difficult than normal, and that we do not have our desire right now. As we know, our subconscious will accept whatever suggestion we give it and bring it into our reality, slowing things down, and manifesting doubts and obstacles instead of our actual desire. This goes for any and all manifestations and of course this includes specific person manifestations.
All that being said, there is a fine line between keeping someone off the pedestal and putting ourselves so high up the pedestal that we end up belittling and underestimating everything and everyone else by stating or thinking things like, “they don’t deserve me”, “I am so much better than them”, “they should be begging to have me” etc. While a healthy self concept and strong confidence in self are essential tools to fast and effortless manifesting, we don’t want to be crossing over to pride, arrogance, or conceit. And I’m not saying this for any moral reason, but rather from a manifesting point of view and again from the point of view of the story we tell our subconscious in relation to our desire. Assuming our desire is to manifest a beautiful, loving relationship with our specific person, saying that we deserve better, that we are better than them, or that they should be begging for our attention gives our subconscious the message that we are actually not being treated the way we want to be treated by our specific person and that the relationship is actually not what we want and deserve, hence missing the mark of living in the state of the wish fulfilled. Looking at both states more closely – the one where your specific person is on a pedestal and feels out of reach, and the one where you feel so high up the pedestal that you start feeling your specific person doesn’t deserve you – are the opposite sides of the same coin called “the ego”. Both states are ego-driven and lack-driven – in the first case you find yourself lacking in relation to your specific person, while in the second case you find your specific person lacking in relation to you. The ego loves to create friction by comparison. I completely understand how it can feel empowering to lift yourself up and no longer feel desperate and helpless when it comes to having your person – and by all means, do that, empower, trust and believe in yourself – but I would urge caution in getting too far off the opposite side for the reasons already explained.
What, then, is the answer? Where is the balance to be found? The answer is: love. Love yourself and love your specific person if what you want is to get love back. If you are manifesting love with them after all, it makes perfect sense to project love out so that you get love reflected back to you, doesn’t it? You love yourself through unconditional self acceptance and through absolute trust in yourself to have all the answers, to know what to do and how to manifest every desire given to you, and to believe yourself to be powerful, beautiful, magnetic, loved, wanted, desired, and appreciated at all times by everyone in your life. When it comes to your specific person, you love them by accepting them and trusting them to be able, capable and willing to be the best version of themselves to you and for you. You know that you deserve it and you accept that they deserve and desire this loving relationship too that will bring out the best in them.
The added effect manifesting through love and trust has is that you actually lose all this unhealthy attachment to your desire that you may have. You create a healthy detachment by getting into the state of knowing that all is well, that you are loved and wanted, that you already have what you want and that it is possible for you. You lose all this ego resistance, the feeling becomes more natural until one day it becomes inner knowledge, and this is when things in the outside world begin to move in your favor. You no longer stress, worry, or doubt yourself excessively, you don’t get too caught up in circumstances, and you go about living and enjoying your life without obsessing over this one desire. A win-win on all fronts.
So every time you are temped by the ego to create unfavorable stories about your specific person (or anyone else for that matter) that involve you being on a high pedestal and everyone else undeserving of your love and attention, don’t take the bait. Remember what you are truly manifesting into your life – love, fulfillment, acceptance, respect – and choose love instead in order to see it mirrored back to you. Love for yourself and love for any specific person whose love you want to bring into your life.
In a previous post, I went into detail about why all our desires – be it generic or specific, including the desire for a specific person in our life – are meant for us to have and experience. This post is an add-on to drive the point home that, if your desire is for a specific person, then you absolutely can manifest them, and what’s more than that, you actually should do it.
As we mentioned previously, there is nothing that is off limits to our God nature which we all partake in. All things are possible to God and desires are given to us because they are meant to materialize in the 3D world as one of the infinite expressions of God in this world. We, in our human form, are the vessel through which such expressions come into physical form. God is One Consciousness but with infinite, limitless expressions. Therefore, the desire for a specific person is no different than any other desire, and because all desires are given with the means to their realization already devised – no matter whether our limited human mind can see that clearly or not – it is absolutely possible and doable to manifest a specific person regardless of any 3D circumstances making it seemingly hard or even impossible. Remember that circumstances are only a problem if we perceive them as such. If we remain indifferent to them, or keep a strong conviction that everything happens in our favor, or even that our desire is ours despite any seeming obstacles – all different forms of revision – then they will “magically” either fade away, or change, or will stop mattering even if they remain.
“If you can believe, all things are possible to him who believes.”
Mark 9:23
There’s even more to it than that. Not only CAN you manifest a specific person, but you also SHOULD (if that’s what you want). As we already said, desires are given to us for a reason. The reason is for us to have them, enjoy them, have a richer human experience while on this earth, but also fulfill our God self’s expression through that desire coming to pass in the material world. So not honoring your desire by holding back, denying it to yourself, doubting or second guessing it would be denying your God self the opportunity to that physical expression that was meant as a gift for you in the first place. All desires are a promise and a gift from your God self and are meant to be taken and accepted as such. If your desire is for a specific person, you would be doing yourself a disservice by not manifesting it and rejecting this gift that has been extended to you as a special possibility for you – and this goes for any and all desires. Accept your desire for a specific person with gratitude – as you would do with any gift – and give it your energy so that you can see it manifest in the physical realm.
