Anxious thoughts and feelings are common when manifesting, especially in the beginning stages of one’s manifesting journey where we don’t yet fully understand or appreciate own true power. Regardless, such states can feel very real and all-consuming while we’re going through them. So with this in mind, here are a few practical tips that can help you feel better and break the intrusive thought patterns when they start arising.
1) Start breathing in and out slowly. Focus all your attention on your breathing. This will interrupt the pattern of intrusive thoughts in your mind. Repeat the breathing until you feel better – typically it only takes a few minutes or less.
2) Get up and move your body. Go for a walk or a jog. Hit the gym. Dance in your living room. Do some yoga. Even clean your home if you prefer. Moving your body helps any pent up blocked energy to move through you and you will quickly feel much better.
3) Remember the fundamentals of the Law. Your desire already exists in the quantum field (4th dimension) – you’re not creating anything from scratch, you’re just focusing on your desired outcome to bring it forth to the 3D. Your desire is already your and waiting for you!
4) Distract yourself. Anything in point #2 is a great option here, or you can do something else. Read a book. Watch a movie. Call a friend. Clean up a mess in your home. Check your to-do list and pick an item or two to tackle. Anything that doesn’t require any deep level of thinking and can distract your mind through entertainment or can help you feel like you’re accomplishing something will do.
5) If you’re still feeling anxious and worried, give yourself a hug. Allow yourself to let out any feelings and don’t be afraid to cry, scream, punch a pillow, or anything else might help you feel better. Remind yourself that everything will be ok, that you are ok, that you are worthy and loved, and that you will feel better again soon.
Self love is a favorite topic in the manifesting community, along with self concept. Yet there seems to be some confusion over what self love actually refers to and even more so, how you practice it. Beyond that, there is the ever ongoing debate about whether self love is actually needed to manifest your desires or if it is something that is purely pursued for self improvement, but has nothing to do with conscious manifestation. In this post, we are going to attempt to tackle these questions and give some clarity.
What is self love? Self love is not to be confused with self care, such as treating yourself to a spa, massage, pedicure, or taking yourself out on a date, although self care is definitely a part of self love – and an important one at that. It is also not to be confused with arrogance, a sense of self significance over others, or a self concept of others not deserving you and needing to beg for your attention because you are so much better than them. Self confidence and feeling secure in yourself are essential for self development, but arrogance is actually nothing more than insecurity in disguise. Self love though is much broader and encompassing of many more things than just self care, confidence, or security in self. I would actually argue that these terrific traits are the result and byproduct of practicing self love in the first place, but not its definition. Self love is synonymous with unconditional self acceptance, as well as belief and trust in oneself.
Self acceptance means that you embrace the concept of your wholeness and perfection at all times while recognizing your human imperfections and forgiving yourself for these. It means realizing that you are whole and perfect just as you are by virtue of having being born in this world as a human by God’s will. This alone means that there is nothing else needed for you to be perfect and whole. No fixing anything, no healing anything, no intervening in anything, no beating yourself up, no putting in effort – you are already perfect, whole, and complete right now, in this moment, just as you are. You always have been and you always will be. This does not mean that doing inner work and pursuing self development is wrong or unnecessary, but you recognize that it is something you do in order to expand your consciousness and ultimately find it easier to realize and embrace the perfection you already are, but not something you need to do in order to bring about that perfection in yourself. This also means that you accept and trust that you are in the perfect place in your life journey at any given time and that you don’t blame yourself for not being “further along” where your ego mind thinks you should be. It means that you shed all guilt, fear, doubt, and self reproach and that you believe in your power to bring about any change you desire in your life and trust yourself to have all the answers within – and this is all by virtue of being born, not something to try to attain or to strive for. Now, since we are all human, we of course have flaws – or at least what we perceive as flaws. We may feel we don’t have the perfect skin, the perfect body, the perfect confidence, the perfect sense of self worth, the perfect skills to succeed in what we want etc. – the list is endless. Self love doesn’t care about any of this. Self love embraces all perceived imperfections and still sees perfection and wholeness no matter what. If you can make remembering and reinforcing this within yourself a daily practice, you will soon start to feel a difference in how you feel about yourself, others, your circumstances, and the world at large. And the confidence, self acceptance, security in self, and desire to take care of yourself will come automatically, along with many other wonderful things.
The question of whether self love is needed to manifest your desires or not is a “hot topic” with many coaches having differing opinions about it. In my point of view, this is a false dilemma of sorts. Here’s why: you don’t actually “need” anything to manifest. Your desires are automatically manifested and the bridge of incidents becomes activated the moment you conceive of a desire. Yes, there are things that can delay these bridges from fully materializing and make them take a more roundabout way. But ultimately, the manifestation of your desires is inevitable, even if it becomes significantly delayed along the way for all the different reasons that are beyond the scope of this post. That being said, a lack of self love – in the form of accepting, believing in, and trusting in yourself as detailed above – is sure to be one of the main factors – if not the most significant one – to delay your desires from becoming manifest in the 3D world, or bringing about incomplete, partial manifestations, or a lot of hot and cold results. You may also find that your manifestation is inconsistent, where you can’t seem to fully keep it in your life, or it manifests in ways that you don’t prefer. The reason is simple: if you don’t believe in yourself and your power, if you don’t trust your inner being to be wise and limitless, and if you don’t maintain the feeling of knowing yourself as perfect and complete no matter what the 3D reality may be mirroring, you are going to be filled with doubt, anxiety, insecurities, fears, and all those unproductive feelings that disturb our inner balance. This is exactly what gives rise to the unwanted or incomplete results I just mentioned since this is where you dominantly put your energy. It does not mean that your desires will not ultimately manifest, but it may be a much longer, more painful, and much less direct way than otherwise, and if the lack of self love continues, it may be mixed with other unwanted results and may never feel quite complete.
Since what we teach on this website is simpler, easier, faster, more effortless ways to manifest our desires, self love as described in this post is essential for a general sense of wellbeing. And having a dominant sense of wellbeing and inner balance is the surest way to bring about your desired outcomes fast and easy, in a way that is effortless, feels natural, is consistent, and actually feels very rewarding. So I would urge everyone to prioritize deepening your self love practice on a daily basis with the main goal of feeling well, balanced, and content within. The results are sure to follow and may be even better than you could have ever imagined.
We’ve said previously that the purpose of revision is not to change external events or circumstances, but rather to change how we ourselves feel about a certain event, circumstance, person, or even about ourselves. In other words, if we change our energy towards it, that in itself will then prompt external circumstances (including other people) to reflect a change back to us. In this post, we are going to explore a few different practical ways through which we can use revision in everyday life, always keeping in mind that the first goal is to change how we feel about whatever we are revising.
Neville’s way, aka re-imagine the scene a different way: In “The Pruning Shears of Revision”, Neville encourages us to re-imagine an incident that didn’t go as we had hoped or wanted in a different way that reflects a different development, aligned with what we actually want to have happened. For example, let’s say you got an email with disappointing news. In Neville’s way, you would go within and imagine that email to say what you wish it said instead. You do this as many times as needed until you start feeling better about the unwanted incident, i.e. until your energy starts to change from frustration, sadness, anxiety, disappointment, anger to that of calmness, relief, confidence, gratitude or other similar energy. In some cases, the shift in energy may even take the form of indifference, i.e. you are no longer bothered by what happened, and that is also a good sign. Depending on the level of resistance you have to the new story, it may take several repetitions until you start feeling the effect of your energy changing. Keep at it. In some cases you may only do it once or twice and immediately feel the shift. In other cases it may take days or even weeks of repetition. Both scenarios are fine and normal. It is not necessary to actually forget what happened initially, but remember you are going for a change in attitude and feeling towards what happened. You need to be able to not dwell on it anymore with pain and hurt attached to the memory of it.
Give the story a different meaning that aligns with your desired outcome: Remember that everything and everyone is you pushed out, so this is actually a very effective way to deal with an unwanted event, as what you think, believe and assume is literally what you end up seeing in your reality. In this technique, you do not change the facts of what has occurred, but you change the interpretation of the facts and your perception of them to something desirable or at least neutral. For example, let’s say your specific person took hours to respond to your message and that has upset you. Instead of giving it the meaning that they are ignoring you, don’t care about you, don’t love you, don’t want to talk to you, and this entire negative spiral of thoughts, feelings and self-pity, you give it a different meaning that suits you. For example, you may instead convince yourself that they have lost their phone, that they are sleeping, that they are swamped with back to back meetings, or even that they are actually on their way to your home to surprise you with a visit, but that in any event, you will be hearing from them shortly and that you are on their mind regardless. The new meaning in itself doesn’t matter as long as it’s something that feels good to you. The more you’re able to believe the new meaning you assign to the story, the better, because the easier it will be for your subconscious to accept it. So make sure it’s something believable to you that you can get behind and repeat to yourself until you feel your grip loosening and your desperation going down and you stop dwelling negatively on the fact.
Everything is a bridge bringing you closer to your desired outcome: In this method, you don’t even need to revise any of the facts, but it is important to stay neutral about what has happened (it’s ok to acknowledge that it wasn’t what you ideally wanted, but don’t dwell on it) and to not pass any judgment to the best of your ability. Instead, you observe the event as it occurred – if you’re a more advanced practitioner, feel free to do some reverse engineering and connect the event that was mirrored back to you with your inner beliefs or assumptions where it came from – and reassure yourself that, even if it looks bad at first glance, it is still working in your favor and it is still a bridge working for you, not against you, with the sole purpose of bringing your desired outcome to you. The folk story of the young peasant who broke his legs and whose whole village pitied him for his misfortune, only for him to find out a few days later that war had broken and that his disability had saved him from being drafted as a soldier to the war is a perfect example of that. Something seemingly bad or negative turns out instead to be a big blessing in disguise. Assume that everything is working in your favor no matter how it may look like at first. Believe that everything and everyone in the world is a bridge bringing your desire to you, even if it you can’t immediately tell how it connects to it.
Accept it and persist in your desired outcome: Another effortless way to revise something unwanted, similar to the point above, is to accept that it happened but persist in the inner knowing that your desire is yours regardless and will be made manifest in your world anyway. Losing a battle doesn’t need to mean that the war is lost – in fact the war is never lost unless you decide it is – so don’t blow any hiccups in the way out of proportion and continue to believe that things are going to turn out the way you want them to anyway, no matter what may come in the way. Accepting an event doesn’t mean accepting that it will or can never change. All it means is that you observe it, drop any resistance to it having happened, and persist in your end result regardless, knowing that your desire is indeed yours come rain or shine.
All the above methods are valid and equally ‘correct’, and you may find yourself having a favorite one or choosing to implement a different one each time depending on the circumstance, your own levels of resistance to it, and how you generally feel at each given time. My only advice is to choose what feels best and most natural to you, so there really is no right or wrong way of doing revision. There is also no right or wrong way of implementing the revision. Some people prefer to script it and read their new story over as many times as needed. Others prefer to visualize or imagine using their senses. Others prefer to construct a short scene or inner conversation that reflects their new story. Yet others like to affirm or rampage to themselves, either on a loop until they feel better, or every time the story comes to mind, or even intermittently as they feel like it. Again there is no right or wrong way other than what feels right to you. Be bold and go for what feels most natural, and you will soon start feeling the shift within, which is where the outer magic that shifts things in the external also begins.
There is a lot of confusion and misinformation in the manifesting community about what self concept really refers to. Most coaches and manifesting practitioners out there will usually define self concept (or concept of self) as your thoughts, beliefs, and assumptions about yourself. Some will even go a step further and define it as your own set of thoughts, beliefs and assumptions about yourself in relation to another person, situation, or circumstance in your life. This is why most of the time you are being told to affirm for your self concept if there are changes you want or feel you need to make. While all this is undoubtedly true and accurate, it doesn’t tell the whole story. Self concept actually goes much deeper than your beliefs about yourself, and while affirming for it is totally fine, I would argue that self concept actually encompasses your entire view of your entire world. Let’s dive in a little deeper.
Change your conception of yourself and you will automatically change the world in which you live.
Neville Goddard, “Your Faith is Your Fortune”
Neville spoke a lot about self concept, yet always in a broader, more encompassing way than most modern coaches do. Yes, it is all about who you think, feel, believe, assume yourself to be in each area and aspect of your life, but it actually also includes how you perceive everything and everyone else that comes into your 3D experience in one way or another. Let me explain. Those of us practicing conscious creation know that ‘the whole vast world is yourself pushed out’ to use another popular Neville quote. This means that everything and everyone we experience in our current reality is perceived and interpreted through the filter of our own self concept and it actually mirrors back to us a piece of our own consciousness.
Simply put, if I’m dominantly wearing the self concept of victimhood, I am likely to perceive anything my friend, specific person, colleague or anyone else in my reality does or says through that lens and interpret it as further confirmation of my existing victimhood bias, therefore most likely feel rejected, abandoned, unloved, unworthy, or wronged by them one way or another. This will also affect my view of what is or isn’t possible for me in my life, for example I may find it much harder to believe that I have a good shot at a promotion at work and may use my victimhood mentality to further confirm to myself that this is impossible for me because my boss hates me and my work colleagues are against me. Because I see myself through the filter of victimhood, I am also likely to attract circumstances and people in my life further confirming this bias, which may often come not just from myself but from other people as well and their own circumstances. For example, I may have a colleague at work who often complains to me about similar issues as the ones I myself always seem to face – how they are always passed up for a promotion, how the boss doesn’t like them, how they always get the worst shifts because the manager is on a mission to make their life miserable, or how they can never make ends meet with how much they’re getting paid. Over time, and usually without realizing, my concept of victimhood will also extend beyond my immediate life and environment and I will start seeing evidence of it anywhere I look, confirming my bias even more – for example, in the news, in social media, through stories I hear about friends of friends, or even broadly accepted concepts by society which further prove to me that my concept of the world is truly accurate. For remember, everything around us is in reality a manifested experience, forever matching our inner world and providing evidence of who we are within.
By contrast, if my dominant self concept is that of someone who is loved, appreciated, respected, seen and heard in their reality, my experience in life and the world is likely to be vastly different. To take the same examples as above, I probably already have my promotion at work which I got in a shorter time than most other people in my company, and I probably didn’t even think twice about whether I deserved it, or of any obstacles in pursuing it in the first place. I likely thought from the outset that I had a great chance of getting it because I’m great at what I do, my work is appreciated by my superiors and I know that my colleagues love me, just as I love them. Besides, I know I interview well and I further justify this to myself because I’ve been offered most jobs I’ve interviewed for in my career. My work environment is likely a healthy, fun one and I enjoy spending time with my teammates and forming connections with them. I don’t think anyone hates me, and even if I stumble on the occasional hiccup with someone at work, I confidently resolve the issue with them in a friendly and respectful manner, which actually has the positive side effect of bringing us closer as colleagues. I am likely to hear a lot about others’ work opportunities, successes and promotions, and my broader view of the world is also likely to mirror similar incidents back to me, for example my friend posting on social media about her new job offer, my other friend being super excited about starting their own business, and a third friend telling me about their brother moving to another country to pursue an exciting opportunity. I am also likely to think of others as successful, happy with their work lives and always progressing professionally in ways that satisfy and fulfill them. For my consciousness is what creates what I get to experience in my world and the world has no choice but to mirror back to me evidence of who I am inside through personal experiences, but also through other people and their own circumstances.
You see then that self concept goes far beyond who I perceive myself to be and that it actually reflects who I perceive the entire world to be, including who I am in relation to everything and everyone in my world and how the world treats me. It also includes what I feel and believe is possible for me and why, and what I expect to experience in each situation or circumstance involving myself and others – whether they are in my inner circle or whether it’s society as a whole. Simply put, self concept is the identity we dominantly wear in the world that determines what we see, perceive, focus on, believe, assume, think, feel, and ultimately what energy we put out into the world as well as what energy we receive back from the world around us.
